When Massachusetts couples go through a divorce, they typically have to learn how to deal with many new and often daunting situations and usually within a climate of high stress. When divorcing couples are also parents, a new level of stress is placed on them while they try to do their best to help the children cope with their new reality. Fortunately, a clinical psychologist offers tips for parents trying to navigate their way through this particularly challenging part of the divorce process.
Divorce is rarely a happy event, and individuals going through this process often feel very stressed, which can result in tension and conflict between the divorcing partners. Parents will, understandably, worry about how the tension will affect the children throughout the process and beyond. It is best, of course, if divorcing parents can keep the conflict away from the children. Adopting a collaborative divorce model and/or using a parent coordinator can help both parents and children make a healthy transition to their post-divorce life.
Divorcing parents may also worry about how to break the news of the separation to their children. To avoid unnecessary stress, children should be told only when parents are certain the separation or divorce is going to happen, and if possible, parents should tell the children together. Parents are wise to present an honest, yet developmentally appropriate explanation of the current events and how the children’s lives will be affected.
It is safe to say that all parents want only what is best for their children. However, during a rough time such as a divorce situation, Massachusetts parents may find it difficult to know the right answers. Tips such as these, as well as the guidance of a knowledgeable family law attorney can help divorcing parents navigate through this challenging time and make as smooth a transition as possible for everyone involved.