The end of a marriage is no easy transition, even in cases when separation is clearly for the best. When kids are in the mix, divorce brings with it additional concerns as well, since factors like the ages of the children, personality, social-emotional development and more can all affect how kids process the change. However, are a few basic tips that can make the divorce process in Massachusetts easier for everyone involved.
Patient listening and understanding become crucial when kids are going through their parents’ divorce, as many become emotional and may act out. Something that may help combat this is creating a stable, predictable environment as soon as possible in order to foster a sense of security. It’s also wise for parents to consider counseling for everyone in the family, adults and children alike, as therapy can help provide support and address any significant behavioral issues that may arise.
While it may be difficult, parents are advised to refrain from speaking negatively about each other to or in front of the children, as doing so can make a child feel caught in the middle. To that end, parents will want to attempt to model respectful behavior toward the other parent. Of course, this is often easier said than done when splits are less than amicable, but trying to foster a fair, civil relationship will benefit both the adults and children alike.
Divorcing parents will also want to refrain from using children as their go-between or messenger, as doing so puts pressure on the children, making them feel as though they have to pick sides or choose between mother and father. It may even create additional conflict, which is the last thing anyone needs at such an emotionally tumultuous time. However, with the support of trusted friends, relatives and an experienced Massachusetts family law attorney, the temporary stresses of the divorce process will soon give way to a more stable future.
Source: citizen-times.com, “When parents separate: A survival guide for families“, Emily Eileen Carter, Jan. 29, 2018