When it comes to the end of a marriage, the number one concern of most Massachusetts parents is how their children will handle the divorce. No matter how amicable the situation may be, parents worry about how issues like child custody and new living arrangements may affect their kids. The good news is that, with some conscious effort, there are ways to minimize the negative effects and focus instead on working toward a future that's healthier and more stable for everyone involved.
Perhaps one of the most important things to remember is that no matter how ex-spouses feel about each other, they will both always be the children's parents. As such, it's best, whenever possible, to avoid making negative, blameful and degrading comments about the child's other parent within earshot. If a child is still having trouble coping with his or her feelings about the new family dynamics, a concerned mother or father may wish to consider counseling, either individually or together as parent and child.
Additionally, divorced spouses will want to try to avoid using children to relay messages to the other parent. It's best for a child's well-being to be left out of adult arguments; parents should interact directly when possible. If the divorce situation is in such a state that direct conversations are not advisable, then divorce attorneys can handle necessary communications.
Of course, it's important to remember that most commonly held divorce advice does not apply in situations of abuse, whether physical, emotional or other. In most cases, however, working through the divorce at an individual pace as parent and child, with discussion and understanding, will benefit everyone and make the process easier. A Massachusetts family law attorney with experience in cases involving child custody may be more understanding and will be able to offer invaluable legal support and guidance throughout the proceedings.
Source: examiner-enterprise.com, "Help kids cope with divorce", Rhonda Hudson, Oct. 27, 2017