Co-parenting after a divorce is not necessarily easy. There are those couples who can handle it gracefully and are able to communicate without issue or argument, but there are also those who, no matter how nice they try to be, always end up fighting. No one wants to spend years of their life fighting with an ex-spouse about their children. To help prevent conflict, parents in Massachusetts or elsewhere can have specific instructions included in custody orders about how to communicate with regard to parenting time or custody issues.
When verbally discussing issues about children with an ex-spouse almost always leads to arguments, sticking to written forms of communication may be better in the long-run. Of course, these too can get out of hand when the parents have a disagreement. At the end of the day, it is all about choices, and choosing whether one will engage in conflict or state what they need to and move forward is important.
This is something that is being called parallel parenting. Parents will agree to a form of communication that works best for their relationship — phone, email or text — and avoid interfering with one another’s parenting style. This creates limited interaction and reduces that chances of arguments occurring, but it also keeps both parents up to date on the most important thing — what is going on in their child’s life.
Parallel parenting can be a great option for those in Massachusetts who struggle to keep a civil relationship with their ex-spouses. While it is not always the easiest course of action to pursue, it can help keep the focus on the child. Parents can seek to include the parallel parenting style in custody agreements and parenting plans. Legal assistance is available to help create such arrangements, including specifics about how couples are to communicate parenting time and other custody issues in the future.
Source: The Huffington Post, “5 Reasons Why Parallel Parenting Is Better Than Co-Parenting“, Tiffany Benyacko, Nov. 30, 2015