For kids in Massachusetts, seeing their parents go through a divorce can have a negative impact on their lives. Kids often do not say much about their parents' decision to divorce other than sometimes choosing which parent that want to live with. However, kids are perceptive and are aware of the events happening around them. They may actually struggle with dealing with the divorce of their parents.
Often, parents are so involved with divorce proceedings, lawyers and the fight for possession, they forget about their children and the emotional impact the divorce may have on them. When kids are unable to express their feelings about their parents' divorce, it can affect their behavior and emotions. From professional observations of kids' behaviors when their parents are divorcing, kids are often unable to say what they are feeling.
One example of a child's thought is not liking it when one parent talks badly about the other in front of the kids. The child likely loves both parents equally, and they do not like to hear negative things about the other parent. They also do not like to have their emotions dismissed by either parent. It is an emotional time for the children, and sometimes they worry that their parents will stop loving them in the same way they stopped loving each other.
Divorce can sometimes be difficult for families and can have a negative impact on a child. It is important to allow kids to express their feelings about the situation and help them to understand the positive reasons for the divorce. Massachusetts courts can help families through divorce, provide support, and be sympathetic and understanding to the kids. The best interest of children is what matters the most when going through the divorce process.
Source: The Huffington Post, "12 Things Kids Think About Divorce But Are Too Afraid To Say", Tara Kennedy-Kline, April 20, 2014