Massachusetts parents who end their marriage are almost universally concerned about the effects that the change in family structure will have on their children. This is an understandable worry, as divorce and the division of parenting time marks a significant shift in the life of a child. However, it is possible to move through this transition in a way that is healthy for both parent and child.
One tip for parents who are going through the transition that follows divorce is to remain closely connected to the lives of their children. It is important to check in with teachers and school administrators to ensure that a child is doing well at school. For those who are struggling, it is always better to address the issue early on, rather than waiting for problems to exacerbate. If a child is continuing to perform well in school, simply letting the teachers and staff know of the shift in family structure can help them to keep a close eye on the child’s progress, and advise parents if problems occur.
Another way to ease this process for children is to make time to do things together as a family. Make an effort to carve out special time to be together, such as eating meals together or having a special family movie night. Turning off electronic devices and really connecting with a child can help strengthen and protect the parent/child bond.
Massachusetts parents who are concerned about their children during the timeframe immediately following a divorce should know that it takes time for everyone to adjust to a change in the structure of a family. By remaining closely connected to their kids, both parents can provide the love and support that children need after a divorce. In addition, making the most of one’s parenting time can help parents gain a sense of stability and consistency during this time, which is also an important component of effective parenting.
Source: The Charlotte Observer, The post-divorce balancing act, Nicole H. Sodoma, Nov. 6, 2013